I’ve observed a fascinating pattern unfold over the years. Frequently, individuals express frustration, claiming an inability to find the right community or lamenting being deemed unsuitable by a particular group. As this narrative recurs, it becomes tempting to empathize with their plight and blame others for not meeting certain expectations. Yet, a deeper reflection reveals a profound truth that resonates with the wisdom in Scripture.
Proverbs 18:1 cautions us, “Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment.” In acknowledging our human inclination to isolate or distance ourselves, we must consider whether we might be contributing to the challenge of finding a fitting community. It is an insight that echoes the biblical call for self-awareness and humility.
In 1 Corinthians 12, the apostle Paul beautifully illustrates the concept of the body of Christ, highlighting the community’s diversity of gifts and functions. Verses 21-22 state, “The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you,’ nor again the head to the feet, ‘I have no need of you.’ On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable.” This passage invites us to recognize that sometimes, it is not a question of others lacking but rather a recognition that our unique role may lie elsewhere.
The biblical narrative also emphasizes seasons of discernment and change. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” Acknowledging this truth, we understand that our calling or purpose may sometimes lead us to different endeavors or communities.
In humility and guided by biblical principles, let us reflect on the possibility that, at times, we may be the challenge in the equation. This recognition opens the door to personal growth, self-discovery, and a more nuanced understanding of our role within the grand tapestry of God’s design.
~PW 🌮🛶
Phillip W. Martin 
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